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Your small group has been up and running now for several weeks. How’s it going? If you feel like the honeymoon is over and you’ve hit some rocky times, don’t be surprised—you’ve entered the “transition stage.” Among other things, your small-group members may be coming with some questions like these:

1. Is this group worth the time and effort? Many things may underlie this question. It’s time to listen carefully. And be honest: is this group a worthwhile time investment? Why or why not?

2. Is it relevant? The first few weeks of school have created a new reality for your members. They want real help integrating Scripture into their lives.

3. Is this group leader modeling genuine faith? Leading isn’t about looking good; it’s about being honest and guiding people into grace-filled lives. Are you growing as a person? Does your group know your struggles?

4. Is there a place for me here? Every person in the group is looking for genuine fellowship. Are all the members accepted and cared for by the group? Do their contributions indicate that they believe they have something to offer?

5. Is the group faithful to its initial promises? Review your initial purposes and your “ground rules.” Are you delivering on what you initially invited people to be a part of? Are people annoyed by lax commitment to starting and ending times? Is there true discussion, or is the group dominated by a few people?

During a time of transition, the leader’s best posture is to be warm, affirming, listening and non-defensive. Let the group “talk to itself,” and allow time for the Lord to speak to the group.