Continuous Training Leadership Lessons - Ministry Exchange (MX)

Leadership Curriculum Fall 2004:

Table of Contents: Minister through the Word 2 Sharing the Gospel 3 Time Management 4 Tell your Story 6 Be Prepared to speak 7 Conflict 8 Theology: Predestination/Freewill 10 Biblical Reliability 12 Racial Identity: history 15 Racial identity: quiz 16 Vision Casting 18 Broken Cart 19 Darkside of Leadership 20 Construction of the Kingdom 26 Legacy 28

Minister through the Word
In small groups have students develop real-life scenarios that fellow
students’ are struggling with. (Eating disorder, sleeping with boyfriend,
suicidal.)
After SG has decided on 4-5 scenarios spend 10 minutes in silence as group
members find scripture to reference in dealing with each situation.
Explain that there are several ways to approach a situation Biblically.
Depending on how you approach the situation informs what types of scripture
you use and how you use it.

. Comfort- many people do not know God’s love and run from Him in guilt. Comfort ministry connects a person to God’s love, his hope, his body and future redemption in Jesus. . Theological- sometime people just don’t know about what God says, therefore being unable to respond appropriately to His love. Theological ministry is stating the truth about who God is through His Word. This doesn’t always mean teaching like in a classroom but you must present the truth in a relevant form. . Corrective- many of us need to be only reminded of the truths we already know about God. Corrective ministry brings a reminder to a person in a gentle but firm way so that they can remember what the Word says about their life. . Rebuke- we all have our moments of rebellion where we know what God says and what everyone else says we just won’t listen. Rebuking is usually very direct and will be seen as “hard love”. Ex. Small group member sleeping with boyfriend. Are they a Christian? Have you talked about it before? Do they know they shouldn’t do it? Have they come from a condemnation background or are they just being rebellious? These are all questions that affect how you approach them and what scripture you use.

Come together in small groups and discuss what scriptures everyone has
discovered and what avenues they would take as a group to minister through
the Word.

Take time to pray for all these scenarios

Sharing the gospel
If the world was made through Christ then all things reflect him even if
it’s in a broken way. This means that we should be able to communicate the
gospel through objects or metaphors, allowing nonChristians to connect with
a real image of themselves, Jesus and the atonement he gives us.
We want our students to at all times be equipped to share the good news of
Jesus so push them to image how they might do this in class, in the dorm or
at work.

Talk about the elements of the Gospel:
Sin: separation/rebellion from God
Need for Payment: Death, judgment
Atonement: Jesus’ Death & Resurrection
Repent and Believe: accept the gift

Exercise:
Send students out in small groups to stores in order to find metaphors ($1)
for sharing the gospel.
Once they return have the students share the good news of Jesus using their
metaphors with the other groups.

Be aware that many of the groups will make the gospel out to be a self-help remedy, “Jesus makes everything better.” (band-aid, makeup) but this is not the gospel. We should help our students understand that Jesus doesn’t just cover our sin but eradicates it or take away the problems in life but gives us a new life, restores our life and puts a new spirit in us. It is not a self help strategy to accept Jesus, it is to understand that we are total failures and without Jesus we will surely die.

If there is not enough time to go find metaphors at a store then ask
students to find one with the stuff they already have on them.

This exercise can be augmented by asking the students to support their
metaphors with Biblical support or proof texts. The references can be
directly related to the metaphor or with the gospel element it illustrates.

Ex. match illustrates light – John 1 we need a light to pierce the darkness
of death

Spend time in prayer asking for boldness to share Jesus
Time Management
Peter Drucker has said, “Efficiency is doing things right. Effectiveness is
doing the right things.”
Major difficulty in doing ministry and having a relationship with God is
Time management.
We need to establish objectives and goals to assist us in guiding our time.

What is an objective?

An objective is simply a task that we set before ourselves or is assigned
to us by some person or organization to complete. It is a very broad
statement of intent.

What is a goal?

A goal is a projected, specific, measurable end.

How do we demonstrate that we will accomplish a goal?

This can be done simply by providing anywhere from one to several steps
outlining how the goal will be achieved.
Examples:
Objective: to not fail out of HCC by passing all of my classes
Goal: to maintain a 3.0 GPA

. study 30 minutes a day for class . form a study group with smart people . have all of my assignments turned in on time

Objective: to maintain consistent time alone with the Lord
Goal: have a quiet time every day

. read the Bible and pray for 30 minutes . have Wilbur ask me about my quiet times
In small groups
Write a list of your top objectives this semester: (build kingdom of God,
don’t fail.)
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
Write a list of where your unseized time goes: (video games, TV,
boyfriend.)
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.

Establish priorities

A, B & Cs of Time Management

A: items that are most	B: items that are	C: items can be
essential to	important, but can be	postponed or dropped.
accomplishing	postponed or adapted	(Wash car, tattoo,
objectives;	if needed. (Hair cut,	buying CD, hrs at
non-negotiable (study,	change oil in car,	Work)
leadership, QT.)	fasting, date)

Recapturing Your Time

1. Know your rhythms of maximum effectiveness a. Certain tasks get done best at certain times b. Daily rhythms – Weekly Rhythms – Semester Rhythms – Yearly Rhythms 2. Command Time When You Plan Ahead a. Consistent maintaining and scheduling of your calendar b. Deliberate prioritizing of your time in advance i. Time with the Lord ii. Time for study 3. Criteria for Choosing Time a. What is your mission? b. What are your goals?

Jelly beans and Rice
Rice is our stuff and if we put it in first then we’ll run out of room for
God stuff

But if we put the jelly beans in first then sprinkle the rice on top we’ll
have plenty of room for both.
Share Your Story
Our experience with Jesus is more valid today than in years past.
Go over how to tell their story.

Acts 9- For several days he was with the disciples in Damascus, 20and immediately he began to proclaim Jesus in the synagogues, saying, “He is the Son of God.” 21All who heard him were amazed and said, “Is not this the man who made havoc in Jerusalem among those who invoked this name? And has he not come here for the purpose of bringing them bound before the chief priests?” 22Saul became increasingly more powerful and confounded the Jews who lived in Damascus by proving that Jesus was the Messiah. . Paul didn’t “know” much but can still proclaim Jesus as the son of God. . Notice it was the changed man that amazed the crowd. . Knowledge and powerful words/proofs didn’t come until later

Exercise:
Doesn’t have to spectacular just real. Dive into the emotions, how you’ve
grown and how God has provided for you. – Get into small groups (3 people) – Spend a couple minutes reflecting on the questions in silence

– Write out a 3 minute testimony presentation using the questions as a guide w/o using Christianese language [sin (rejection of God), hell (separation), salvation, depravity (I’m jacked up), John 3:16]. – Share with each other what Jesus as done in your life. . What is the greatest most dramatic need that God has met in your life (or in the last three years)? Or what is the most remarkable thing that God has done in your life (or in the last three years)? . Briefly describe what the need was before God met that need. Or briefly describe what your life was like before God did this remarkable thing in your life. Use only three to four sentences. . Briefly describe what God did in your life. Use three or four sentences only. . Describe how things have changed in your life since this happened. Use a story to illustrate, but only use 5-6 sentences.

Motivation:
Jesus backs up his witness! Exhort Leaders to present the gospel boldly &
recklessly because Jesus will always back up his witness. (Preaches same
thing John does, helps disciples when can’t cast out demon, supports
Samaritan woman & blind dude.)

Growth Assignment:
Share your story with someone on campus this week.

Be Prepared

Share an illustration of someone not having something to say because they knew nothing.

Do you have something to say from the Lord?
As the people of God, the light on the campus let us not be caught with our
mouths dry and void of what God is doing and saying.

Have a Word- something to say about what He is teaching you On the tip of your tongue a scripture to share with people

1 Peter 3 Always be ready to make your defense to anyone who demands from
you an accounting for the hope that is in you; 16yet do it with gentleness
and reverence.
Are you able to articulate why you have hope in Jesus?

Are you able to say what he is changing in you or teaching you? Not same rehashed answers/testimony Genuine, real, scripture related By the end a person will know you’ve met with God recently!

Ex:- leader must have personal answer to question, “Why do you have hope in
Jesus?”

Break up into small groups

Articulate why you have hope in Jesus? Must, for exercise, relate it to the scripture that the answer comes
from.

Motivation:
We must have an answer for the hope we have!

This exercise was difficult for some of us. Get with Jesus/ sit at His feet If you let him change you the world will know your answer is
true. Ex. Paul in Acts is changed and people are amazed not because of
words but because of change. “For several days he was with the disciples in
Damascus, 20and immediately he began to proclaim Jesus in the synagogues,
saying, “He is the Son of God.” 21All who heard him were amazed and said,
“Is not this the man who made havoc in Jerusalem among those who invoked
this name? And has he not come here for the purpose of bringing them bound
before the chief priests?”

As the people of God, the light on the campus let us not be caught with our
mouths dry and void of what God is doing and saying.

Spend time praying for boldness
Conflict
Communication & Conflict (adapted from Brian Sanders)
Discuss everyone’s feelings they have while in a conflict. (Tell stories)
Conflict is everywhere but unknown to many of us conflict is desirable.
When conflict is separated from sin it becomes a refining characteristic.

What do people say about conflict? What are some
conceptions/misconceptions?
Misconceptions of conflict:
Conflict is abnormal conflict is win-lose situation all
conflict is wrong
Natural personality clashes Christians must never conflict
Christians are to give-in out of love

Reality:
The church had plenty of conflict- and it was healthy
Widows overlooked (Acts 6:1-7)
Paul speaking to Corinth (1Cor. 4-5:2)
Confronting sin in love and community (Matt 18:15)
As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another (Proverbs 27:17)

Discuss in small groups: What goes wrong in confrontation that makes it
sinful?

-Lack of safety: people need to know they can express both positive and
negative emotions and not risk rejection (ironically trust and safety are
built through conflict)
-Lack of expression: withholding your feelings only deepens the rift and
causes more damage in the end. Risk saying too much then too little.
-Careless expression: Must express conflict in a healthy gentle way that
will benefit you and group. You must express it in love! (Be honest &
gentle & loving.no one said it was easy)
-Lack of humility: Love/humility must drive our conflicts though anger may
be expressed. It’s ok to be right but not proud.

How to deal?

Recognizing conflict: conflict arises when the perceived or real needs
between two parties conflict with on another. (Differences in principles
or values, personality, power)

Leader must recognize the balance between task, relationship, and
individual needs. The trigger is not necessarily the cause. (ex. One small
group leader realizes that if the group misses any more studies they will
not finish 1 John. Other small group leader prepares for bible study and
knows that it is just what everyone needs to hear. When SG begins one
member says that their friend, whom is there, is really depressed and wants
to talk about it. What do you do? One person is operating on task values,
another relational and another individual. No matter what course is taken
conflict will soon erupt.) Leader must be able to identify what dynamics
are taking place.

What ways do people deal with conflict?
Possible dealing strategies: manipulation, non-negotiation, empathetic
understanding, emotional response, and personal rejection.

Which do you fit in most?

There is only one right response-empathetic understanding.
It demands compassion without compromise of what is right. Everyone can be
understood and yet disagreed with. If no solution is found then at least
both parties understand why the other is disagreeing. This does not mean
to give in too easily, especially if there is a definite wrong. (Matt
18:15)

Gal 2:11-21 (option)
How does Paul deal with he and Peter’s “differences”?
What can we learn from Paul’s behavior as leaders?

Motivation:
Think of how conflict plays out in GIGs and SG. Motivate leaders to press
their groups to new levels with Jesus. Talk about how that might look. (May
look differently for each personality.) This may cause conflict but
remember it is a refining process.

Predestination/FreeWill
(adapted from Brian Sanders)
What do you know about freewill? Determinism? “things happen for a reason”
Approaches to the question?:
Agnostic- people have been arguing forever, we will never solve it.
Belittling- shouldn’t get into this issue, it is wrong to argue because
it’s not key
Calvinism-
Armenian-
Biblicalist-shouldn’t be Calvinist or Armineanist-I’m Biblical
Instructive position- I teach them both

Respect diversity Adequately describe problem itself-give justice
History:
Martin Luther
1517 reformation- monk, priest, dissatisfied with the church 95 thesis or issues to reform inductive method (starts with experience specifics moves to general conclusions about God) I’m messed up( need God( saves by faith Conclusion might be flawed I see meat( I see maggots on meat( meat turns into maggots
John Calvin [Saint Augustine.]
1536 writes Institutions; forms society; brilliant deductive method (starts with assumptions moves to specifics) God is Sovereign( commands his creation( I’m a creation(He commands
me Assumptions maybe flawed or (right assumptions but not true in experience) The more exercise the better(I will exercise constantly(your
dead
Jacobus Arminius [Thomas Aquinas and C S Lewis]
Calvin pastor- questions the tenets of Institutions 5 points all dealt with the Will Luther reformed Catholic(Calvin reformed Luther(Arminius reformed
Calvin
1618 Council of Dordt responds to Arminius students establishes TULIP paves way for Westminster Council- everyone knows
Total Depravity
Unconditional election- elected before the foundations of the world(does
choose or not)
Limited atonement- only for elect, blood was not wasted (special)
Irresistible grace- cannot refuse the urging of God
Perseverance of the saints- can’t choose to leave God’s family, loose
salvation, once your saved you are always saved (locked in)
Rom. 8:28 – 30-worked to his purposes rom 9:6 – 2418So then he has mercy
on whomever he chooses, and he hardens the heart of whomever he chooses.
Eph. 1:11-11In Christ we have also obtained an inheritance, having been
destined according to the purpose of him who accomplishes all things
according to his counsel and will,
Calvinist View- no one is worthy, if God chose 1 person to save it would be
infinite grace
strong, everything is God’s, Creator, nothing happens outside his will,
Relationship between elect and God is special, teacher’s pet, you have been
chosen special

5 Armenian points
Humans born potential/predisposed to sin- must commit act of Sin (choose to
sin)
Conditional predestination- God knows who is going to choose Him thus
elected 1 Pet. 1:2
Universal atonement- Jesus died for everyone
Possibility of resistance to grace- can refuse fellowship with God
Possibility of relapse from grace- choice to reject God after you’ve been
saved
Matt. 23:3737”Jerusalem, Jerusalem, the city that kills the prophets and
stones those who are sent to it! How often have I desired to gather your
children together as a hen gathers her brood under her wings, and you were
not willing!
John 7:1717Anyone who resolves to do the will of God will know whether the
teaching is from God or whether I am speaking on my own.

Rom. 7:1818For I know that nothing good dwells within me, that is, in my
flesh. I can will what is right, but I cannot do it.
1 Pet. 5:2I exhort the elders among you 2to tend the flock of God that is
in your charge, exercising the oversight, not under compulsion but
willingly, as God would have you do it-not for sordid gain but eagerly.
Armenian
View God- can’t make him do anything, God let’s people be free If he stops ( it ceases, it is what we experience to be true Evil cannot be accredited to God

What are the Problems?
Determinism Arminianism
Problem of evil God thinks it sucks too, God is
Furthermore, if man is not free, but all his acts sidelined to
watch evil at work
are determined by God, then God is directly
responsible for evil, a conclusion that is clearly
contradicted by Scripture (Hab. 1:13; James 1:13 – 17).

Origin of sin limiting of God- wants to save
but can’t
The responsibility to obey God’s commands isn’t there a
better plan?
entails the ability to respond to them, by God’s enabling grace.

When and where does God intervene?

Knowing both positions helps us avoid useless arguments and teaches us the
deeper truths about God.
Biblical Reliability

SG: Why do you believe the Bible is true?

What are some common arguments that the Bible is not true or you can’t rely
on it?

Telephone game, error of transmission- over the years of translation the meaning has changed, they lied/”relying on men’s testimony” archeology has proven wrong

Biblical reliability

. The telephone game- Generations passed on word-of-mouth Pass the phrase around long enough and it gets changed Developed folklore . error of transmission Intentional or unintentional mistakes have been made as the text
has been copied

SG: What do you say to the telephone game complaint or to the potential of
erroneous transmission?

-Doesn’t take into account disciples of the first century

“In Jewish religion it was customary to memorize the teachings of the
Rabbi”

-”folklore is a gradual process spread over centuries of time.”

William Albright, world’s leading Biblical archeologist “a period of 35-50 yrs is too slight to permit of any appreciable corruption of the essential content and even of the specific wording of the saying of Jesus.” With the gospels written & collected within one generation from Christ it is impossible for folklore to develop

Transmission error

-no one could have corrupted all the manuscripts

Bibliographical test Examination of textual transmission
-”how reliable are the copies we have in regard to the number of
manuscripts (MSS) and the time between the two.”
.
Aristotle wrote poetic 343 BC, 5 MSS, 1100 AD
Caeser history of Gallic Wars 58 BC, 9 MSS, 900 AD
New Testament 50-80AD 20,000MSS 130 AD
Illiad 643 MSS

The New Testament assures us that it has more manuscript authority than any piece of literature from antiquity.
Over 100 years of intense scrutiny, still holds up. They lied; “Relying on men’s testimony.”

SG: How do you respond to the idea of the disciples lying or being just
man’s words?

Have you seen Mozart, Napoleon? They existed but we only know from
testimony.

Internal evidence test- is the written record credible and to what extent

“Ability to tell the truth”- your ability to tell about life during
civil war/ability to tell about life on HCC campus

-: recorded by men who had been either eyewitnesses themselves or who
related the accounts of eyewitnesses of the actual events or teachings of
Christ.

Luke 1:1-3 2 Peter 1:16 16For we did not follow cleverly devised myths when we made
known to you the power and coming of our Lord Jesus Christ, but we had been
eyewitnesses of his majesty. 17For he received honor and glory from God the
Father when that voice was conveyed to him by the Majestic Glory, saying,
“This is my Son, my Beloved, with whom I am well pleased.” 18We ourselves
heard this voice come from heaven, while we were with him on the holy
mountain. John 19:35 – Are the testimonies both geographically and chronologically close to the
events recorded? Full of proper names, places, events, cultural details, customs and opinions of the times; backed up by archeology – Gospels are slightly different yet contain the same content, showing no
attempt at conspiracy or harmonization (much like you get from
eyewitnesses)

-If it was invented:

Writers would have hid some facts Peter’s denial, competition of apostles for position, flight after arrest, failure of Christ to work miracles in Galilee, references to his insanity, confessions of ignorance to future, despairing cry on cross, anger in temple. -New Testament was circulated within the lifetimes of eyewitnesses (friendly and unfriendly to the gospel), who could easily deny the accuracy of the accounts.

-Die for a Lie? – All died, except John.

Pascal, French philosopher

“The allegation that the Apostles were imposters is quite absurd. Let
us picture those men, meeting after the death of Jesus, and entering into
conspiracy to say that He has risen. That would have constituted an attack
upon both the civil and religious authorities. The heart of man is
strangely given to fickleness and change; it is swayed by promises, tempted
by material things, If any one of those men had yielded to temptations so
alluring, or given way to the more compelling arguments of prison, torture,
they would have all been lost.” Not one confession that the testimony of the apostles was a lie
exists (though many have turned from the faith due to torture)

“That a few simple men should in one generation have invented so powerful
and appealing a personality, so lofty an ethic, and so inspiring a vision
of human brotherhood, would be a miracle far more incredible than any
recorded in the Gospels.”

. Archeology/science has proven wrong
SG: What do you say to those who think archeology/science has proven it
wrong?

External evidence test- do other historical documents confirm or deny New
Testament

-Is the New Testament Reliable pg159

– Quotations of the New Testament by early church fathers from all over the
Mediterranean all agree. Shows accuracy of transmission.

-No archeological find has disproved any part of the Bible. Findings either
prove directly, show was probable or says nothing to prove or disprove.

Bible has been determined to be one of the most accurate pieces of
literature, proven over and over by archeologists.

Purtill
Many events which are regarded as firmly established historically have (1)
far less documentary evidence than many biblical events, (2) and the
documents on which historians rely for much secular history re written much
longer after the event than many records of biblical events. (3)
Furthermore, we have many more copies of biblical narratives than of
secular histories, and (4) the surviving copies are much earlier than those
on which our evidence for secular history is based. If the biblical
narratives did not contain accounts of miraculous events.biblical history
would probably be regarded as much more firmly established than most of the
history of, classical Greece and Rome. (Thinking about Religion)

We are a Generation of experience:
let us be rooted in the Word
Trust it with our lives, get in it, soak it up, and hold it up as a light
to this dying world.

48The one who rejects me and does not receive my word has a judge; on the
last day the word that I have spoken will serve as judge, 49for I have not
spoken on my own, but the Father who sent me has himself given me a
commandment about what to say and what to speak. 50And I know that his
commandment is eternal life. What I speak, therefore, I speak just as the
Father has told me.”
22But be doers of the word, and not merely hearers who deceive themselves.

SG: Why do you believe the Bible is true?

Racial identity: history
Must understand context in which we do ministry

What is context? Must remember segregation

Social Club Church- socialization not sanctification

Social club will not wrestle with truth Want to be happy- so you come back

Church history

2 camps- late 1800s Social Gospel- “feed the poor, end segregation” Fundamentalists- evangelical movement “preach the gospel, get
‘em saved” Social issues not our issues Anglos had choice to assimilate regardless of
nationality

Church and Country have been grieving

Denial- “never existed”; there’s no problem Bargaining- “that was then”; Need to get over it Angry- Anglo “guilt, shame” Minority “Rage”; “where are my people at?”

What do you do when someone is mad?

“I’m giving up and going home.” Anglos can quit the game and take
their toys home Minorities can’t put their toys down need
to forgive
What are we really saying if we don’t work our problems out?
One relationship is worth more than the other If it was Miya- everything in my being to “unanger” her.

“Love thy neighbor as thyself”

What do we call it when we don’t do what Jesus says to do? Our judgment is better than his

Idolatry in the church

Prays for unity in the spirit yet we are divided Won’t deal with truth cause we want you to come back
Illus: schedule of year Don’t deal with harder issues till spring Want you to come back

Repent and stand for Truth

Discuss “Can we talk” Beverly Tatum’s book Why are all the Black kids
sitting together

pg 11-12= ethnically inclusive
Speed bumps:

-apathy: antiracist; escalator illus -Color blindness: field of flowers

Post Modern: subjectivity, community, visual, distrust institutions,
survival vs human progress

How does this affect ministry?
Position more than ever to do what our parents failed to do.
Value being together, realize institutions can be corrupt, people’s
experience shape them

Racial Identity: quiz
Dominant vs. Sub dominate culture
Determines how power is distributed, structures look like
Seen as the norm of humanity

Plant city- dominant culture said chewing, muddin’ and wearing dirty torn clothes to school was normal Preppies- were abnormal with primped hair, cars and clothes All preppies spoiled by daddy

Dominant culture does not truly know the experience of the subdominant

Need illustration:

Culture: Peggy Lane
Define culture- the shades that inform every factor (birth order, gender,
race) of who we are in every interaction

Culture is like an iceberg

Most of it you don’t see, it lie beneath everything and if you don’t pay attention to it, it will wreck you

Objective- what you can see

clothing, food, greetings, initiative, timity

Subjective- (underneath the surface) what give meaning to what you see

values, feeling, assumptions, gender roles, motivations, concept of
truth

Sometimes don’t see cultural conflict because the culture is less visible

Same words but different meanings!

% of communication (different values placed on all of these)
55= body language
37= tone, rate of speech
8= actual words

Must identify cultural conflicts

EX. Time delay- ever been tardy?

some it’s disrespect but have you ever been to a Latin wedding?
Personal space- guy stands too close = pervert Or Friendship

Misattribution- ascribe a motive/meaning to a behavior based on one’s own
culture or experience (intonation in voice, volume, body language)

Social, cultural and historical context is the ground in which individual
identity is embedded.
To begin understanding cultural conflicts we must begin to understand how
we perceive the world.

Do Crossing cultures quiz

After everyone take quiz debrief in small groups for 10min reflecting on:
think about quiz results, why do I think this way?
What historical events have shaped my thinking?
What has my social context been? (Surrounded by people like myself, was I a
minority, rural country, and urban context.)
Questions from Paul Pedersen and Allen Ivey’s book culture Centered
counseling and interviewing Skills.
A person’s identity lies within

The individual 1234567 the family

A person should place reliance on

Others 1234567 self

A person learns from

Personal experience 1234567 the wisdom of others

I am motivated by the need to

Improve myself 1234567 be liked

I view other people’s motives as

Suspicious 1234567 basically trustful

I define friendship as including

Many people 1234567 few people

In a social situation I feel that friendly aggression (teasing, one-
upmanship, ect..)

Is acceptable and fun 1234567 embarrassing

I deal with conflict

Directly 1234567 indirectly through others

I approach activity with a concern for

Doing things together 1234567 being together

My usual pace of life is

Fast, busy 1234567 slow, relaxed

I solve problems by

Goal-based analysis 1234567 past knowledge or experience

I define time in terms of the

Past 1234567 future

Nature is

Mystical and fateful 1234567 physical and knowledgeable

I feel ultimately that what is desired can be achieved

If one works hard 1234567 in very limited measure

Youth should

Show deference to wiser elders 1234567 lead progress

Felling should be

Suppressed 1234567 freely expressed

Personal beliefs should

Conform 1234567 be asserted In your life direction you should Follow a self-determined course 1234567 so what is needed of you

Problem solving should be

Deliberate and logical 1234567 instinctive and impulsive

Manual labor is good for

Lower classes 1234567 anyone

With regard to the family

Other relationships can be just as important 1234567 there is a
strong loyalty and priority

Authority is

Resented and rebelled against 1234567 respected and valued

The style of communication preferred is

Tactful, indirect 1234567 open, direct

For the underdog, there is a feeling of

Empathy 1234567 scorn

Elders receive

Respect 1234567 disregard
Vision

“Without vision the people die” our students need fresh pictures of what
God is calling them to do on the campus. This exercise will assist in
teaching them how to develop vision on their own as well as articulate it
to others.

Exercise-

Give me a picture of who we are and what we do to build the kingdom of God?
Have students develop vision in small groups
1. Outline the picture (20 min)

Who are we on campus? What are our dreams? What do we want to see happen? Outline vision in a way that can be visually displayed Ex: dream to have neighbor hood lined with houses that have home
churches(

2. Draw the vision/dream. (20 min)

Ex: houses that have fire on their roof with prostitutes, homeless
coming into

3. Preach it! (40 min)
“Paint the pic with words, convince me, show me the hill so we can take it
together.”
Each person takes a turn holding the picture and articulating the vision to
each other.
Reflect on Picture:
Sometimes we need to evaluate where we are at and how we need to change.

Exercise:
Spend time reflecting on the picture writing down everything that you see.
Debrief what students see, maybe writing it down on a board.

How does this picture relate to leading as a team, evangelism, our
programs?

Not utilizing gifts No vision Lack communication Little training or support Using outdated, out of context structures

Dark side of Leadership

Compulsive Leaders
I often worry that my superiors do not approve of he quality	1 2 3 4
of my work.	5
I am highly regimented in my daily personal routines such as	1 2 3 4
exercise schedule or devotions.	5
When circumstances dictate that I must interrupt my daily	1 2 3 4
personal routines, I find myself out of sorts and feeling	5
guilty for having “skipped” a day.
I frequently find myself conscious of my status in	1 2 3 4
relationship to others.	5
it is difficult for me to take an unplanned day off from	1 2 3 4
work responsibilities just to goof around or spend time with	5
friends or family.
While away from work, I still find myself thinking about	1 2 3 4
work-related topics, often sitting down to write out my	5
ideas in length even if it disrupts family activities.
I like to plan the details of my vacations so that I don’t	1 2 3 4
waste time.	5
I often explode in anger after being cut off or irritated	1 2 3 4
while driving or over petty issues.	5
I am meticulous with my personal appearance, keeping shoes	1 2 3 4
shined, clothes perfectly pressed, hair carefully cut and	5
groomed, and fingernails always clipped.
I frequently comment about the long hours I keep and my	1 2 3 4
heavy workload.	5
When others make sloppy errors or pay little attention to	1 2 3 4
detail, I become annoyed and judge that person.	5
I am obsessive about the smallest errors, worrying that they	1 2 3 4
will reflect poorly on me.	5

Narcissistic Leaders
Fellow leaders in my church or organization frequently	1 2 3 4
question whether my proposed goals and projects are feasible	5
and realistic.
I am obsessed with knowing how others feel about my sermons,	1 2 3 4
lessons and performance.	5
I find it difficult to receive criticism of any kind,	1 2 3 4
reacting with anger, anxiety, or even depression when it	5
does come.
At times I find myself thinking, I’ll show them; they could	1 2 3 4
never make it without me, when I experience conflict	5
situations or opposition to my proposed plans.
In spite of achieving what others would consider significant	1 2 3 4
success, I still find myself dissatisfied and driven to	5
achieve greater things in an effort to feel good about
myself.
I am willing to bend rules and press the envelope of	1 2 3 4
acceptable behavior to accomplish my goals.	5
I find myself feeling jealous of the success and	1 2 3 4
achievements of associates, other churches, or organizations	5
in my area.
I am often unaware of or unconcerned about the financial	1 2 3 4
pressures my goals and projects place on those I lead or the	5
church or organization I serve.
Success or failure in a project has a direct bearing on my	1 2 3 4
self-image and sense of worth.	5
I am highly conscious of how colleagues and those to whom I	1 2 3 4
am accountable regard my accomplishments.	5
I need to be recognized or “on top” when meeting with a	1 2 3 4
group of fellow pastors, denominational officials, or	5
associates.
I see myself as a nationally known figure at some time in	1 2 3 4
the future or I have plans to attain such a position.	5
Paranoid
When I see two key church leaders discreetly talking in the	1 2 3 4
lobby of the church, I worry that they may be talking about	5
me.
It really bothers me to think about my church’s board	1 2 3 4
meeting without me being present.	5
When an associate receives rave reviews for a sermon or some	1 2 3 4
special ministry, I experience intense feelings of jealousy	5
rather than joy in the success and recognition he or she is
receiving.
I require subordinates and associates to provide me with	1 2 3 4
detailed reports of their activities.	5
I struggle when an associates rather than me, is asked y	1 2 3 4
church members to perform services such as weddings or	5
funerals.
I have few intimate or meaningful relationships within my	1 2 3 4
church or organization and find myself avoiding such	5
relationships.
I insist on absolute loyalty from those who work for me and	1 2 3 4
prohibits staff from criticizing me in any way.	5
I often worry that there is significant faction within my	1 2 3 4
organization that would like to see me leave.	5
I have probed people for what they know or for special	1 2 3 4
information they may have relating to certain leaders in my	5
organization.
Those I work with often complain about my lack of a healthy	1 2 3 4
sense of humor.	5
I routinely refer to those I lead as “my people,” “my board”	1 2 3 4
or “my church” while bristling when the same designation is	5
spoken by an associate.
I tend to take seriously even lighthearted comments and	1 2 3 4
jokes directed at me.	5

Codependent
I grew up in a family with one or more chemically dependent	1 2 3 4
people (i.e. alcohol, drug addicts, etc.)	5
I grew up in a strict, legalistic religious environment that	1 2 3 4
held its members to an unrealistic standard of behavior and	5
discouraged open communication about personal struggles and
problems.
I am usually willing to put up with the bizarre or	1 2 3 4
embarrassing behavior of others.	5
I often refrain from sharing my opinion in a group setting	1 2 3 4
until I have heard the opinions of the others in the group.	5
I frequently worry about hurting people’s feelings by	1 2 3 4
sharing my true feelings.	5
I often feel responsible for problems I did not create.	1 2 3 4
5
I find it difficult to sleep because I worry about someone	1 2 3 4
else’s problems or behavior.	5
I find myself frequently over-committed and feel my life is	1 2 3 4
out of control.	5
I find it extremely difficult to say no to people even when	1 2 3 4
I know that saying yes will result in difficulty for me or	5
my family.
I constantly feel a sense of guilt but have difficulty	1 2 3 4
identifying its source.	5
I feel like I never measure up to those around me and have	1 2 3 4
self-deprecating thoughts.	5
When I receive compliments from other, I find it difficult	1 2 3 4
to simply accept them without making qualifying statements.	5

Passive aggressive
I find myself resisting standards and procedures for formal	1 2 3 4
review of my performance.	5
It is common for me to procrastinate on major projects.	1 2 3 4
5
I regularly resist others’ ideas that could translate into	1 2 3 4
increased performance or responsibilities for myself.	5
I find myself consistently under-performing.	1 2 3 4
5
I experience periodic but regular outbursts of anger and	1 2 3 4
frustration that are just within the bounds of what is	5
considered acceptable behavior.
Occasionally I intentionally forget suggested projects.	1 2 3 4
5
Sometimes I give others the silent treatment as an	1 2 3 4
expression of my anger.	5
I find myself telling others that nothing is bothering me	1 2 3 4
when in reality I am seething.	5
I tend to be generally pessimistic and feel negative about	1 2 3 4
my future.	5
Others have expressed to me that I make them feel	1 2 3 4
uncomfortable.	5
Strategic planning and goal-setting are difficult for me.	1 2 3 4
5
Sometimes I catch myself trying to manipulate others in	1 2 3 4
group settings by venting my anger and emotions when facing	5
an initiative or idea I do not support.

“How easy it is for us as spiritual leaders to use our ministry positions and the people we have been called to lead to advance our own goals and meet our own neurotic needs.”

Do you recognize the dark side in your own life?

What shape or form has the dark side taken in your life? Briefly describe
it below as precisely as possible, noting how it appears privately and
publicly in your life.

What are the past experiences that may have led to its development in your
life?
Describe in one or two word statements how you felt or feel about each
incident.

How has it empowered your life and ministry in a positive manner?

In what ways has it eroded your leadership?

Have you ever felt the burden of too many or too high expectations? If so,
describe some of them.

What feelings did such expectations spawn?

Are you laboring under unrealistic expectations in your life at this
moment? What are they? How do they fit into what you have identified as
your dark side?

Overcoming the dark side of Leadership

Something gone bad in leadership

Story of leadership failure

Tell me of some pastors gone bad

Many of us have sensed at one time or another a vague, inexplicable drive
to make a significant mark with our lives.

-Profound need to be approved of Accepted or appreciated -Irrational fear of inadequacy -Fear of failure -Need to feel in control -Tendency towards perfectionism

These needs drive us

To success To failure

Where do these needs come from?

Maslow’s need pyramid

Self-actualization: alienations, boredom, absence of meaning in life
Esteem: feel incompetent, negativism, feeling of inferiority
Love: feeling of being unwanted, worthlessness, loneliness, isolation,
incompleteness
Safety: insecurity, sense of loss, fear, obsession
Physiological: hunger/thirst, sexual frustration, fatigue

Traumatic events
Ex pg 58

Tell me some examples of how these needs might not be met and how
that would affect someone in the present.

Development of the Dark Side

Stage 1: Basic needs exist
Stage 2: traumatic experience threatens satisfaction of certain needs
Stage 3: Existential debt our unmet need was personal failure, which we

attempt to pay through often unhealthy behavior
Stage 4: dark side develops combined effects of needs, trauma, and emotional debt

Compulsive leader

Maintain absolute order
Sees organization as another area of his life that must be controlled a
direct reflection on himself.
Pursues perfection to extreme
Very rigid, highly systematized routines
Goes out of way to impress superiors
Excessively devoted to work
Little room for spontaneity
Overly moralistic, conscientious and judgmental of both themselves and
others
Sudden outbursts of anger (anger that they might be unaware of)

Needs:
God is Sovereign and in control
We can trust God with our lives and the details

Narcissistic

Self-absorbed
Overdependance on external admiration and acclaim
Over inflated sense of importance to organization
Restless ambition
Tend to overestimate their own achievements
Use others to enhance own image and improve how they feel about themselves
Constantly beginning new ministries (needs the back-patting of doing the
new thing)
Provides little long-term oversight or maintenance

Need to:
Realize no achievement will satisfy thirst for adequacy

Paranoid

Suspicious
Guarded in their relationships
Hypersensitive
Fearful of potential rebellions
Jealous of other gifted people
Create structures of control
Keep a finger in every pie
Limit autonomy

Need to:
Trust God as protector
Promote others

Codependent

Covering up behaviors
Tendency to react rather than to initiate action
Take personal responsibility for actions and emotions of others
Extremely benevolent,
Willing to take on another task becoming overextended
Failure to confront inappropriate behaviors

Need to:
Not responsible for others attitudes
Pleasing God is more important

Passive-Aggressive

Procrastination, stubbornness, forgetfulness, intentional inefficiency
Fear of failure
Fear that success may breed higher expectations, which will lead to failure
in future
Short outbursts showing intense emotion
Certain impulsiveness
Difficult to set goals and implement plans
Systems of measurement is resisted
Complain that they are not allowed to lead like they want
Impatient when things don not go his/her way

Need to:
Motivated to find a God inspired vision and realize a well crafted strategy
are more effective than manipulation.

Test them

We need to reflect
Pg 162-164

Spiritual disciplines
Scripture reading

James

Personal retreats

Periodic extended retreats

Devotional reading

CS Lewis

Journaling

Explore your inner workings A spiritual biography

Prayer and Fasting

Periodic times

Personality tests

Myers-Briggs: humanmetrics.com DiSC Personal profile system

Personal accountability groups

An unwillingness to submit yourself to an accountable group is a sign
of problem Suggest write out covenant covering groups purpose and intentions to
submit, confidentiality and how you will do it.

Formal Performance Evaluations

Address potential problem areas before they are out of control.

Construction of the Kingdom-
Developed for InterVarsity Christian Fellowship Experiential Leadership
curriculum by Kim Koi, Sarah Scanlan & Jonathan French, 2002.
Purpose: To provide a tangible illustration of vision, the vitality of
everyone’s role in engaging the vision, and the importance of passing that
vision on to younger generations.

We asked local construction companies if they would lead us on a tour
of their construction site and describe the process of building, who is
involved, and what happens if someone doesn’t put forth 100%, etc. We took
this information and joined it with material from chapter one of The
Cathedral Within by Bill Shore. We talked about what it took to build a
cathedral and how that related to us building our chapter.
It is the best to find a construction site that is ½ done being built.

Purpose: Illustration of vision/importance of passing the torch

– Constructing this building requires many people doing their jobs correctly/well – One vision/one plan for all involved . What did you see and learn at the construction site? . How does this relate to our chapters? . Same principles . However, we are not building a shopping center, we are building a cathedral!! . What do you know about cathedrals? . How long did it take to build a cathedral? How is that time significant?

Application:
Paraphrase the IV vision so that it is your own (give them a copy of the
vision)
What are some ways that you can start casting this vision to others? To
the younger visions?

Cathedral Building

Purpose: To build a great cathedral where people can worship God

Time:

o 500 years/10 generations (Columbus starts ( 1992) o Never see completion (yet still kept passion) o Vision is VITAL!!

People:

o Built on other’s foundations. o Sharing our strengths (read quote from book) o All were essential in the town (even the baker) o Caught and cast vision to younger generations

In response to God’s love, grace, and truth:

The purpose of InterVarsity Christian Fellowship/USA is to establish and advance at colleges and universities witnessing communities of students and faculty who follow Jesus as Savior and Lord: growing in love for God, God’s Word, God’s people of every ethnicity and culture, and God’s purposes in the world. Chapter Building

Purpose: To build a great chapter where people can worship God

Time:

o Not constructed overnight, takes time o Keep hope. Look for little accomplishments. o Remember vision often!!

People:

o You are not the first, you won’t be the last. RC – Brook’s story; UCF – Paul prayer meeting o Great chapter built on everyone giving all they have o No gift is greater, no gift is lesser, all are equally important. o How do we cast vision as a chapter? (Students instructed to paraphrase this vision so that it is their own)

What are some ways that you can start casting this vision to the “younger
generations” in the chapter?

Legacy

Developed for InterVarsity Christian Fellowship Experiential Leadership
curriculum by Kim Koi, Sarah Scanlan & Jonathan French, 2002.
Purpose: To encourage the leaders to think about the type of life that

they want to live now, particularly about the legacy that they want to leave for future student generations For many of our students, legacy is the last thing that they are
thinking about throughout their college experience. For those that do
think about it, it is often at the end of their senior year when their
“legacy” has already been established. The purpose of this exercise is to
help the leaders, especially the younger ones, to think through these
things so that they can change the type of legacy that they will leave.
Take student to a cemetery having them observe what they see.
Gather together reflecting on the observations focusing in on the
headstones and what people are remembered for. . What is the purpose of leaving a legacy? . Who is the legacy for? (temptation to leave a legacy so that your own name can be great —wrong reason) . What kind of legacy do we want to leave? . What does an eternal legacy look like?

Matt. 6:19-21 Treasures in heaven
1 Thessalonians 4:13-5:11 (emphasize 5:4-8) coming of the Lord
2 Corinthians 4:16-5:6 (possibly till 5:21) jars of Clay
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Task Needs

Relational needs

Individual needs