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July 09, 2012
Marry Your Church
When a couple takes marriage vows, they are reminded that such promises are not to be entered into lightly. This is a life-long commitment. As such, when a couple reaches their 50th anniversary, we celebrate the union they have kept, especially because this is not our cultural norm.
That marriage has not been an easy road. It has not been about fairytale romance. It has been about a long-standing, unwavering commitment to one another.
It’s a shadow of Jesus’s commitment to us, a reminder of lasting love and fidelity. It’s a prophetic picture in our culture where giving up, getting out, and starting fresh are normal.
Commitment That Lasts
I long that we would tackle our commitment to the local church with the same sense of importance with which we address marital commitment. Recently, a student asked me if she should leave her church because the sermons covered topics she had already learned and she wasn’t growing anymore. I appreciated her honest inquiry and happily debunked the myth that we graduate from our church when it gets boring or repetitive.
Instead of leaving her church, I encouraged her to ask God what he could teach her through the struggle of staying committed. How could she serve and love the church? How could she reexamine her heart under the preaching of old lessons? How could she take a risk to go deeper in relationships and become more intertwined with the family of God? When the sermons seem boring and repetitive, it is a reminder that God calls us into the life of the people of God beyond sitting as a passive participant in the pew.
How Married Do We Want to Be?
There is a book by Jim and Sarah Sumner called Just How Married Do You Want to Be? The thought behind the title could be said of our relationship to the local church as well. The scripture tells us we belong with our church family. It’s our choice to live into that relationship. We have the opportunity to become members of our local congregations by making promises to participate through loving, serving, giving, and committing—for better or worse. Unfortunately, disagreements in our churches can quickly lead to membership transfers and our commitment to our local church can become dependent on its compliance with our desires. Many regular attenders do not even consider church membership. It seems too formal or permanent. We are content to date our church or multiple churches, without ever considering commitment. College students, in particular, wonder about the need to settle at a church when college is just four years, but I encourage students to choose early, stick with the same church for all four years, and practice church membership, if possible.
There are plenty of important reasons to consider leaving a church, but if the church you attend is just as good as any, minus a few things that get on your nerves, then I encourage you to “love the one you’re with.” Imagine how radical a commitment to loving and serving one another in the local church over the long haul would look in a non-committal culture. Imagine how it could shape our hearts away from our self-centered concerns. Imagine if we celebrated 50th anniversaries for church membership the way we celebrate wedding anniversaries.
Lisa Liou has served on InterVarsity staff for ten years. She is married to Jeff who has been serving as college ministries pastor for three years at their church in Pasadena, CA. Together with their two kids, they hope to model commitment to the local church for the long haul.